“MEN RISE UP!” calls out TLW Ambassador Dave Lamar to fellow men. These days, simply owning 6 pack abs validates you as a man in our society. If you have a handsome face to add to your well-toned body, then you’re seen as an epitome of a man. Girls would squeal, “He’s hot!” and because you’re very much pleased with what you hear, you assume that you’ve got what it takes to be a man. Well, you’re wrong.
Dave writes that our view of real men comes from what media feeds us, and most of the time it’s an inaccurate source of shaping our ideas.
It saddens me to think how guys think nowadays. Oh if you don’t drink hard drinks you ain’t a man. If you’re still a virgin, you ain’t a man. If you don’t play sports or talk about sports, well, you’re a little less than a man. And why do guys think like this now? A large part of it is because this is what the media feeds us everyday and this is what we start giving into.
So what is a real man? Dave sums up his thoughts on what a real man is in three points:
1. A real man is someone that can take and embrace responsibility.
2. A real man is not afraid to stand up for what is right and the truth.
3. A real man is not afraid of being a leader.
What Dave wrote may seem too much of an expectation compared to sweet talking to girls or lifting dumbbells. But no one ever promised that becoming a man is easy. Let’s quit nodding in agreement to the idea that “Boys will be boys” and instead take up ourselves to man up because boys will not always be boys. Boys are meant to become men. Read the rest of Dave’s post here.
Christ is the supreme example. He was strong and He was pure, because His sole aim in life was to be obedient to the Father. His very obedience made Him most manly-responsible, committed, courageous, courteous, and full of love. A Christian man’s obedience to God will make him more of a man than anything else in the world. Consider these qualities:
Here is the one part young men should know.
COMMITMENT – He must be a man of his word, no matter what it costs. Never tell a woman you love her until you are ready to follow that immediately with, “Will you marry me?” In other words, a man’s love for a woman, if deep and abiding, leads to a lifetime commitment to her. Many heartaches would be avoided if he held back any expressions of love until he is ready to make that commitment. Once promised, he never goes back on that word.
Never tell a woman you love her until you are ready to follow that immediately with, “Will you marry me?” and The second great part of the passage above was ANY EXPRESSION OF LOVE
The first part is obvious, don’t say I love you, kasi walang saysay.
Because, what you’re really saying is I love you for 2 months, or 1 year or 5 years but then I am going to leave you…
What’s that? Nothing! I nothing you for 2 months, or I nothing you for1 year, or I nothing you for 5 years and then I am going to nothing you for ever.
But the second part needs illumination. What represents any expression of love.
That would be anything that would move toward borrowing the affections of a woman’s heart; candy, flowers, strong words with wrong motive like wow your hair is beautiful, poems, simple sweet messages on text, a necklace, more flowers, more candy etc.
But here is my last encouraging rebuke. For every young man. He needs to look far into the future and see his wife whom he has not yet met.
Does any young man want another man to give any expressions of love to his future wife? Would this young man want to magically know who his future wife is and see another man sitting with her, kissing her, reading poems to her or running his fingers through her hair. Would young man say “Well, the guy seems to love my future wife at least for that day?”
No man wants that. He wants his future wife to be pure and unblemished. Kaya,…. We should be the men, to those women around us that we want the men surrounding our future wives to be. Medyo malalim but think about it. This has to be what God wants. Going back.
Christ is the supreme example, He was strong he was pure. His sole aim in life was to please his father.
When you look into a young woman’s eyes and you run your fingers through her hair. Ask yourself, “Is this what my father wants” or “Is this my desire?”
Article written by: Kuya Derek Ross