“What are the ideal qualities you want for a future mate?”

You probably want your future mate to be beautiful, handsome, tall, petite, intelligent, responsible, kind, honest, understanding, loving, and a whole lot of other ‘good’ qualities you have probably listed down already.

Most of us, if not all, want to be married someday to someone that we’ll really like. Someone who will fall into the list of qualities we want. It excites us to think of that person who will have those qualities—to the point that we are not going to entertain anyone who does not live up to the list.

But are those qualities really important for your future mate? Or there’s something more important, far essential that your future mate must have, that you’re probably not even considering?

We often get caught in the excitement of our “ideals” and we forget that Love is selfless. That it’s about thinking highly of others and less of yourself. Maybe it’s solely thinking about what’s best for that person, rather than thinking of what you want.

Adam Young, a.k.a. Owl City, wrote in one of his blogs, about his future mate.

“… For this I truly know:

 She is out there. My Cinderella. She is real. She exists. I pray for her constantly. May God satisfy the desires of her heart, draw her close, consume her. May He claim her passions, her identity, her refuge, her hopes, her strengths and weaknesses, every fiber of her being. May she treasure and cherish her Savior more than anything of this world and cling to His will with every ounce of her stamina. By all that she is, does, and strives to be, may He draw near to her and she to Him.”

When we pray to God about our future mate, may we have this kind of prayer too—that loving someone is about the other person and less of ourselves.