My Soul’s Husband

I guess I really have to make a decision now. A radical decision that would set the course of my life walking in the light of Jesus Christ.

Being open about the possibility of getting married soon is subtly taking my full attention from Christ and what He has called me to do. I want to live a fully surrendered life to Jesus Christ and a poured out life for others whom God also loves.

My future mate is a potential idol in my heart. Though there's a part of me that wants to meet my future husband, there's also a part of me thanking God that I haven't met him yet.

More than the skills that I should learn to keep a comfortable home for my future family, my heart must be pruned and purified first before I meet my other half. Every time there's a gathering and I've prepared food for our guests, people tell me how they think I am ready for marriage. It’s flattering because I’ve always wanted to be an excellent homemaker and I know that part of taking care of my future family is acquiring the skills necessary for a comfortable and serene home. But there's more to being married than keeping a home.

Leslie Ludy once said, "Until Jesus Christ is the obsession of your heart, you’ll always be looking to mere men to meet needs that only He can fill. Only when you make Jesus Christ your first love, will you be ready for a love story that reflects His glory. "

If the Lord will allow me to get married, I want it to be a reflection of His glory. I want people to know about the Lord who wants His children to experience the kind of love the way God designed it to be and not how the world defines it.

If I am more focused on meeting my future mate then my priority is not really God but the guy of my dreams.

Now that the Lord has given me a different responsibility, a responsibility fit for a single woman of my age, is there enough reason not to take it? There's a bigger picture and a larger population out there who need help and only a few are willing to lay down their lives for them. If it’s the Lord who's calling me to go out there and pour out my time, energy, and treasure to give life to others, does He deserve a “No”?

“What kind of a God is it who asks everything of us? The same God who ‘did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all; and with this gift how can He fail to lavish upon us all He has to give?’ He gives all. He asks all.” -Elisabeth Elliot

For now, I am giving up on the thought of getting married soon. Instead of following my crushes’ Facebook or listening to "kilig" love songs, I want to spend more time thinking of how I could help change the world through Jesus Christ and act upon it. Facebook, tv or music per se is not a sin, but whatever this world offers us, I have resolved to use it to give life to others.

Today I am single because God doesn't think I need a husband right now. In His time and in the moment I least expect it, He will reveal who my future mate will be.

Pray with me as I make this radical decision in my life. Not only for my sake but also for those who are inspired with the ministry of True Love Waits Philippines.

God bless you all! 🙂

~ Leslie Grace Vergara, Training Coordinator and Volunteer Specialist

  • Kaye Mongado

    So transparent! 🙂

  • Ree Soria

    Very well said 🙂

  • Pauline

    ThankGod,Great article.:) This can be publish,so that more women will be encourage to pursue God on a daily basis.

  • baby leynes

    Thank God for sites like this, I hope your organization's article can be posted in Facebook.

  • Aj Suñiga

    wow... nice,.. 🙂

  • Jhoy

    This is a great article. Thanks for inspiring a single lady like me, 🙂

  • zhela

    God deserves for your devotion and love. May we leave to the LORD who concerned and responsible to write our love story that we couldn't imagine

  • Heren

    That's true Leslie! what a blessing writing!

  • claire

    aww. natutunaw yung puso ko ngayon. napakaganda ng pagkakasulat 🙂 more power!

    inuubos ko yung oras ko kakaisip kung may lalaki pang magmamahal sa akin, pero ni hindi ko man lang naisip yung LALAKING unang nagmahal sa akin. :')

    pwede ko po ba itong i=post sa Facebook para ma-ishare ko din sa iba?

  • Noehme

    amazing! it is so rare hearing a woman testifying on how she gave up the desire being with someone and prioritize God's work. this article is so inspiring . . i hope 90% of women here in the Philippines can read this 😉

  • toni krizza

    thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts about "true love waits".. nakatulong talaga.. lately, i'm bugged with too much questions.. i asked God kung sino ang plan Niya para sa'kin.. and through this post, na realize ko na dapat ko pa talagang pag tuunan ng pansin ang sarili ko at relationship ko kay God.. and in His time, He will reveal that man.. 🙂

  • camille

    inspiring...superb^_^

  • Micah

    can I make one of your line my status at FB! thanks for reminding me again.. 🙂

  • ybi

    sobrang na-appreciate ko toh kc this past few months and until now i'm on the stage asking god why he doesn't give my partner... super nabo-bored na q sa buhay q.. kc parang napaka plain... when i was in college, school-bahay-friends. now im working.. bahay-work.. walang bago... but after reading this GOD.. answered me right away.. thanks you for writing this article..

  • shing

    I'm so blessed by the decision you make.

    God has His own perfect timing, I praise God of making you able to decide to follow Him.
    Set aside everything that hinders you to glorify God. Praise God!

  • Glory Jean

    Woooow...,
    very inspiring message...
    I've learned a lot...!!!

    God bless us

  • We have the same heart. I commit to pray for you and with you. I hope to meet you someday. 🙂

  • Yes very transparent indeed! @kaye ;D

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