Virginity Sucks?!?

Virginity Sucks?!?

Hey, let me explain first. Don’t let the title fool you ok?

Virginity sucks (so it seems) for this ex-engaged couple, especially for this unnamed young actress in this article I read from a tabloid. I know I shouldn’t be wasting my time reading tabloids, but hey, I need to know what’s going on in local showbiz (lame excuse) being in the media at kung gusto kong makipagbalitaktakan sa mga friend ko na showbiz-oriented.

Anyway, yesterday afternoon after my on-air duty I decided to finish my meryenda while browsing through the broadsheets, then the tabloids. In between sipping my coffee and leafing through some articles, I came across this piece by a showbiz-writer (I have nothing against the writer) and it bothered me so much I had to write something about it. It really broke my heart, it upsets me and it challenged me to do more.logo_new.jpg

Imagine, a guy called off his marriage to his fiancée dahil hindi pumayag ang girl na ibigay ang sarili n’ya and she wants to keep her virginity before marriage since may petsa na ang kasal nila? My goodness! I applaud the girl of her strong stance, but man, oh man! What is wrong with people today? Goodness gracious!

Do they even know how difficult it is to be a virgin (much more to be pure/blameless/holy) nowadays? Ang dami kayang tukso ngayon, lalo na kung nasa showbiz ka. (Feeling!) Endangered species na nga yata mga virgin ngayon! (Hayan, kumukulo na naman dugo ko.)

I know this happens in real life, pero when I read this article it became even more real to me. Although I couldn’t verify and assure the veracity of this story, but whether it is true or not, nakaka-sad and
sometimes nakaka-discourage pa rin na hindi na pinahahalagahan ngayon ang virginity or purity (by the way, there’s a BIG difference between the two).

Buti na lang, we’re not doing it (keeping our virginity) for men or for ourselves or else madidispoint lang talaga tayo. Personally, it's my way of honoring God and idagdag ko na rin making my Ma proud. Kahit sa aspect man lang na ito maipagmalaki ako ng mother dear ko.

You may now kiss the brideHay, masasabi ko lang dun sa girl (if she’ll ever read my blog) you go girl! It’s his loss and you’re doing the right thing. Save it for THE right guy and within the bounds of marriage.

At dun sa guy, buti na lang 'di kita kilala kundi puputulan talaga kita! (O nagrere-act ka na naman!) What I mean is, puputulan ko s'ya ng support sa kanyang mga movie, TV guesting at endorsement. (Ang taray ng beauty ko!)

Hay naku, dismayado lang talaga ako kasi maraming kids and youth ang nag-e-emulate at nag-i-idolize sa mga showbiz personality. Whether it be good or bad, ginagaya ng mga audience and fan nila ang kanilang actions. Sana they’ll make use of their “kasikatan” and their talent/medium to be good role models and to teach positive values to the younger and even older generation.

* Isinulat ni LJ Salceda ng 702 DZAS

  • ivern

    i agree 4 dat...go3 hehehehe

  • Apachezz

    Very well said LJ,... virgins nowadays are called "endangered species"

  • loraine cabrera

    yea, virginity is a must. i'm proud to be a pretty virgin:)

  • loraine cabrera

    to hell w/ dat guy, sana sya na lang ang huling maniac sa mundo,
    di ba nga? real love waits? ba't pa sya mag-qu-quit sa wed nila
    ng girl kung my petsa na ito! tsk! tsk!

  • loraine cabrera

    naku, sana dumami pa ang mga virgin tulad naten sa earth!

  • Liuxene Escobido

    exactly!! she deserves someone better..

  • niña

    u GoT iT Lj...
    gUd joB...
    ajajajaja.....

  • ma.ethel

    tama! if i knOw, nasabi lang nya yun, kasi, waLang-wala na yUng girL..
    DI NA XA VIRGIN!!!

  • klang

    totally agree,, ! ^.^ save it for the RIGHT ONE

  • Adiel

    I strongly agree!!!!!!!!!! kakalungkot tlga now a days...

  • dhaz

    hmmm definitely right! its his loss not d girl.. hindi lang sya ang only guy in this world! nice blog ate lj!

  • tina

    4 sure ur mom is much more than proud of you LJ!! Iam.. I just hope and pray God will produce more LJ in this world...

  • sandeeh

    i agree,,,go for the good and the right thing,,,

  • Lawliet

    You Go Gurl!!!!!! sabi nga "if you dont stand for something you will fall for anything"

  • mariela

    oo, nga sna wlang ng babae ang mag ppaloko sa mag lalaking manloloko para madami ang katulad natin na proud 2 b virgin

  • mariela

    dpat lang naman ang sex sa mga nakasal na hndi ito pede sa mga bata

  • nhice

    korek!!! saludo ako sau ate lj sa paninindigan mo at sa ginawa ng girl.!!God will give her the ryt man for her!!!God bless!!

  • aimee

    dapat lang nman tlgang sex is for couple nuh ..!

  • jyv-747

    yes, indeed, it is only God who's giving us strength to say NO on those things that will certainly affect our future and principles.

    in due time, sino man ang girl na yun, i pray that God will pour out His everlasting love in you and for your future and deserving husband...

    God bless.

  • mayo13

    i praise God for ths article ...the real power to stay away fr physical intimacies...

  • mayo13

    pgpray nyo kming mga kalalakihan.a lot of times nobobo kmi pg premarital sex and physical intimacies na kaharap namin...patawarin nyo kmi...

  • lyca

    hayz very true ka sis. aq nga 35 na but I'm proud to be still a virgin and take note NBSB pa aq hehehe, kc i want to make sure na ang magiging bf q ay sya na ring magiging partner q in life db, (Lord asan na sya) hehehe, good day!

  • khaye

    Well, this is very true. I worked in a company where the environment is very different. It's as if people who are still virgin are outcast. That's why it takes a lot of courage to really stand that. God bless everyone.. ♥

  • John Mello Amaro

    GoodEvening and GodBless YOU Ate LJ Salceda! I salute your testimony and Truth experience about how to maintain the VIRGINITY or PURITY Properly as a True Christian! ang galing mo rin sa advice Ate. . . . yan ang True Love Waits! Alam mo ba Ate LJ ang hirap ma-involve sa True Love kasi ang daming Trial and Errors eh!
    Pero ang the most important ay nagmamanifest dito si JESUS! Because kahit anong
    hirap ng paghihintay,But True Love is still wait Forever because GOD is LOVE! and
    Being PATIENCE is the only Fruit of Spirit!

  • aina mae

    tama ka jan te lj meron.sana maraming youth ang makasabasa nito para magising sa katotohanan.God bless!

  • nicoli

    dapat lng after marriage mag-engage ng sex . . . . .
    . . . .. . .nah. . if I were the girl ? I really really punch the guy and leave him. bahala na xa sa buhay nya.

    . . .hehehe

    God settle already all His plan to us . Thy will be done not ours. . . . . .

  • Wow Mayo 13! I like your heart bro!

    Its rare for men to admit that are struggling in these areas. Self Control and True Commitment in Christ are true essentials in overcoming LUST.
    The problem is not sex but lust. LUST creates an immediate gratification for sex and physical initimacies in the wrong context and time.

  • Bon Fran of TUP Manila

    haiz..tama ka ate..it really hurts..nangyari na kasi yan sa isang kong member ng bible study...virginity is the greatest gift u can give to ur future partner(married)..but sad to say,today its like nothing..the purpose of the lives of this generation is really void...kailangan na talaga mag aklas ang mga Godly people to change this generation..i will not go with the flow of this generation because only dead fish goes with the flow..Amen for God...

  • Emmanuel Cabarles

    Ang ganda po ng blog mo....
    Tama po yun, wag mo muna ibigay pagkatao mo hanggat di kayo kasal, Kpag ang isang lalaki hndi mkapaghintay hindi ka nun mhal

  • jinky

    I hope all the girls would do the same thing-as the fiancee..

    Her decision is very amazing and definitely to be commended. Virginity is something you have in yourself that can make you really confident to stand at the altar together with your groom before the LORD in the future.

    and yah..i remember what you've said..virgins are like "endangered species"..go go go people of GOD! stand firm and do not be moved for at the proper time GOD will give the wo/man we deserve who do the same thing..save him/her virginity until the right time(after the sacred marriage).

    hmm..love this blog LJ. I'll share it with my friends too. GOD Bless you! Mabuhay!

  • jenalyn

    sobra yung guy na yun!!! buti nalang maaga palang nlaman na nung girl yung attitude nya habang maaga pa... di nya deserved yung ganung klaseng tao...
    minsan nakakahiyang isipin sa bansang sinasabing kristiano e, pinagtatawanan na VIRGIN ka pa....

  • marie

    oh yeah! itaguyod natin ang mga bandila ng mga virgins..... Were worth waiting for.....")

  • may

    hai.. ang ganda naman.. very inspiring.

  • NAEJ_YROLG

    .. that's right....
    .. agree talaga ako dyan..
    ,, dapat maging aware talaga tayo mga GIRLS..
    ..especially sa mga temptation iwasan talaga kung kailangan....
    ...
    ...Dapat sa SAKTONG TAKNA JUD....

  • christian

    halos lahat npo ng mga pinsan ko "baby 1st b4 marriage" iba na takbo ng mundo ngaun. Halata naman na double time na kung magwork si satan sa panahon naten ngaun.

    Para sa mga fellow christian youth ko, always remember Jesus gave His life for us, and now He owned us now. Keep our self blameless and spotless til we see He's face. Let us run the race with the power of Jesus and not of our own power.

  • dovi

    agree. super agree. 😀

  • jocelyn

    hayoun isang napakalaking
    tama ang cnabe...

    grabe talaga ngaun
    ang mga tao di
    malaman an takbo
    ng icp...

    tanung nga ng
    prof xmen f e2 daw b an
    uso???

    ang di na magng
    virgin???

    well maxaxabe
    q ln...

    di naten maccc
    un mga ganun tao...

    nadala lg cguro cla ng
    kapuxukan...

    peru mas nakakahanga
    un mga taong....
    napanatili un virginity nila....

    one reason
    para ipaniliti e2 is....

    e2 un greatest gift
    na pd mun ibigay sa asawa
    mu n
    da future...

  • cheng

    .,duper agree...

    god's forbid.....

    i hate those guy...
    like you..
    you just want
    that thing from the girl
    in which you're going to
    marry soon...

    do you really
    love her..??

    go.go.go
    girls....

    just wait for the
    right guy
    and right time..
    for that...

    GODbLess.,c",)

  • Hi Cheng,

    Great to hear from you Cheng.

    But keep in mind that we are not in the business of hating others or putting blame on men. We are giving you truths that would impact your decisions everyday. May your minds be enlightened by what we post and application comes after. It is necessary!

    Thanks
    Franco

  • may

    haaaay, nakakalungkot talaga ang condition ng present generation ngayon. ang moral values natin ay nasisira na unti-unti. but, i am very much positive, malaki pa ang pag-asa at may magagawa pa tayo. kung mag-stand lang talaga ang mga Christians for Purity and Righteousness.

    i am married now, pero ang isang bagay talaga na pinagsisihan ko noong single pa ako ay noong hindi ko napagtagumpayang i-preserve ang virginity ko. ito ang desire ng puso ko noong nagkarun ako ng b.f. sabi ko, hindi ako bibigay. pero naging failure ako. at maraming naging consequences iyong pagkakamali na yun. kahit, fulfilled naman ako and very much happy now, because i married to the man God intend for me. BUT, kung ibabalik ko ang nakaraan..i should have not done it!

    dahil sa nag-engage kami sa premarital sex...nawala ang joy ko noon, nagkarun ng lamat ang relationship ko sa Lord. i felt i live a double life then. i know it hurt my God so much. it took incredible pain in my part and i experienced many bad consequences because of those iniquities. it only stopped when i made it right before God and the situation.

    so, i encourage the young people...learn from me. keeping pure before God is a treasure to keep. i know it's hard, but believe me..it's all worth it. "ang pagsisisisi ay laging nasa huli". huwag kayo gagawa ng desisyon na pagsisisihan nyo for the rest of your lives. be strong in God. dwell in His Presence and live in His Words. God bless!

  • Thanks ate Noreen!

    Man shouldn't live in his past or he will not pursue his life in the future.
    We were meant to live for so much more.

    God bless your heart Ate!

    Franco

  • Cedric

    I agree that there are only a relatively few people who are willing to save their virginity for their husbands/wives. But a husband who called off a wedding because the lady is still a virgin?? ...But I believe it is because God has a far more better plan for her. And I believe God just saved her from such a terrible man!

    I'm worried how that lady is doing right now, and she's come a long way. But I know God will give to her, the husband she deserves.

    Man, the beauty of true love and...I wonder how it'd feel like if you finally found the person you were meant to be with, ae?

    God is great! Good day!

  • dorene

    Hi ate LJ ganda ng voice mo! Praise God lagi ako nakikinig s DZAS online po s ofc. Praise God kc s for my first bf it last for 4 years and still n protect ko sarili ko dun kc takot talaga aq s Lord. And s second bf ko christian 3-1/2 years, we planned for marriage pero d natuloy kc cguro d talaga kmi! Ang importante eh im still pure thanks Lord at s paalala ng mga mahal ko s buhay! Buti n lang d ako naging confident n christian cia. Kc minsan pag christian ang thought natin eh ok n to pero its wrong! Still let God be the center in ur life and when having a relationship! kc sometimes kung cno ung feel mo n cia na d p pala. My perfect will p pala ang Lord! Always listen to HIS word and bear it in ur heart,mind and soul! God bless us all!

  • Myrrh

    Wow!

    Im super blessed w/ the blogs & the comments!!!
    Praise God, for His abounding LOVE & GRACE. I'm so grateful to God for until now, you can still find young people who CHOOSE to live a HOLY & BLAMELESS life before God. Let's continue to live pure in the eyes of God & men... 🙂 God Bless Us All... 🙂

  • maetoth

    walang silbi ang mga guy na ang like lang ay ang......mabuhay tayo mga virgin...

  • mha-an

    thank GOD .. cnvi ng bestfriend q about this site .. im happy at glad po

    sobra nga pong nkakasad ang generation na 2 .. dalawa sa friend ko ang maagang nabuntis .. it's served to me as a lesson .. hirap kyang maging mammy at young age
    kya dpat di pdalod dalos .. in GOD time ..

  • grace

    amen!! this site tlga eh malaki ang naiitulong..

  • Iru

    buti nlng at di natuloi kasal he doesn't deserve her

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