Let’s talk about M!
Let's start from the very beginning...Lust is a sin. Masturbation is an expression of a lustful heart. Masturbation isn't a filthy habit that makes people dirty. It only reveals the dirt that's already in our hearts. It's an indicator that were feeding the wrong desires. That's why problems with lustful actions are symptoms of deeper heart problems.
Masturbation is the physical act of stimulating one's own sexual organs for pleasure. And here's the reason why we don't want you to do it. It will put you in a dangerous and opportune position to commit SIN. Masturbation is built on a self-centered view of sex. This wrong attitude says that sex is solely about you and your pleasure. Your body. Your genitals. Your organism. This is the natural tendency of sin. It isolates us from others and makes pleasure self-focused.
Why is it wrong? Bakit?
1. It is usually accompanied with lust- When a man or woman is masturbating, he or she is physically acting out a sexual, lustful thought or fantasy in the mind even if not with another person. Lust is sin. Lust is an out-of-control thought. Most of the time, masturbation is the physical expression of that thought.
2. Masturbation gives an unfair comparison- Real life if you get married, your future mate will have a difficulty competing with a wild fantasy life. This is one of the dangers of pornography. It provides expectations that real life just can't compete with. You create in your mind what you think or expect the real thing to be like; then, if it's not, it results to disappointment.
3. God commands us to be in control of our bodies- St. Paul said we have to keep them in check. We are to tell our bodies what they will do (1 Corinthians 9: 25-27). We are not animals controlled by instincts or drives. We are the only creation who can make choices and whom God promises to empower to overcome temptation.
IS THERE A HOPE FOR ME???
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
NOT EVEN A HINT: BREAKING FREE FROM A PATTERN OF MASTURBATION
You must embrace a God-centered and selfless attitude towards sex- You must acknowledge that sex belongs to God. He created our sexuality and is the only One with the authority to dictate how it should be expressed. It's not enough to know God's rules for sex. You need to understand His purpose and plan for it. SEX is for MARRIAGE only. When you attempt to experience sex apart form this union, you are disrespecting and dishonoring marriage. We also dishonor God.
"The goal of pornography and masturbation is to create a substitute for intimacy"
DEFINE THIS: Addiction and ever increasing desire with an ever decreasing satisfaction.
Masturbation is SEX with Yourself. If you cultivate a habit of masturbation, don't assume that it will end once you're married. Sometimes "solo sex" seems easier, even more pleasurable. But a husband or wife who turns to masturbation in marriage becomes a rival to his or her own spouse. The act of masturbation draws them away from each other. Giving in to masturbation makes it harder to say no to other forms of lust.
Overcoming lustful masturbation begins with a renewed thinking about sex. But here are some pactical helps to change your habits.
*Identify the specific times of day and locations in which you're tempted to masturbate. Prepare yourself for those moments and places in advance by praying and asking for God'shelp.
*Sleep with your bedroom door open.
*Get out of bed in the morning as soon as your alarm goes off. Lying in bed and allowing your mind to wander is a recipe for failure.
*In moments of temptation, redirect your attention and do something else. Get out of your room, go for a walk, or call a friend.
*Be disciplined about your time in the bathroom and any reading material you keep there.
*Identify your lust triggers. Avoid the sources-shut the magazine, leave the theater, turn off the computer,walk away from the situation. The choice is always YOURS.
*Don't play the "I'll touch myself but won't climax" game. Flee temptation by not touching youself at all.
*Share your struggles with someone else whom you trust.
*Fill your time with activities that put your focus on serving and caring for others.
*Read the Bible it will help you remember the sacrifice that Jesus did for this kind of sin. You cannot sucessfully battle any sin apart from an awareness of God's grace and forgiveness.
You are always given a chance to have a fresh start. God says "my mercy is new every morning". It's an addiction that you need to put a stop to, it's just like drugs and smoking or other sexual immoralaties. It's not gonna be only YOU
but people around you will be affected too.
God loves you.